What triggers us and why?. Real and imagined triggers ; When the trigger is inside us ; Inner demons ; What makes triggers so disturbing --
Traumas and resources. Childhood wounds and neuroscience ; Healthy ways to connect our then and now ; How much of me is me? ; How much of me is me? --
How to handle a trigger. Handy tools ; Shadow, ego, early life: what's really going on? ; Practices that increase our personal inner resources --
The sadness trigger. Grief about what we missed early on ; Mourning a death ; When others are sad ; Tears in our mortal story --
The anger trigger. Is it anger or abuse? ; The angry ego ; Why we fear others' anger ; A new world --
The fear trigger. Both desires and fears ; When closeness is scary ; Practices for freeing ourselves from the grip of fear ; Mindfullness and loving-kindness for fearlessness --
Relationship triggers and resources. True companions ; When our feelings are hurt ; Difficult patterns in relationships ; States of the Union ; Danger in the electronics sector? ; Practices that increase our relationship resources --
Spiritual resources. When the time has come ; Neuroplasticity and spirituality ; Practices that increase our spiritual resources --
Epilogue: the fires that show and tell. Appendix: affirmations to free ourselves from the grip of fear.